Autumn is the season of release.
Summer has come to an end and activity is slowing down.
The trees are releasing their leaves.
And if you want to support the health of your mind, body, and spirit, it’s important that you allow yourself to release your internal debris as well.
This is the perfect time to release old emotions that you’ve been avoiding.
Because you can’t just get rid of emotions.
They are either suppressed, or they transform.
And it’s by transforming emotions that you are able to make space for new things to grow in you and your life experience.
It’s the only way to fully choose who you want to be in this world.
But before we get into the details of how to transform emotions, let’s talk about what they really are.
Many people go through their whole lives reacting impulsively and habitually to their feelings, without ever fully understanding why they’re having those feelings in the first place.
Your feelings exist in order to guide you.
“Good” feelings simply tell you that you’re focused on what you want in life.
“Bad” feelings tell you that you’re focused on what you don’t want.
And the things that you focus on most will appear more often in your life experience, because that focus is a practiced neural pathway.
In other words, the more you think about something, the easier it is to think about.
And the easier it is to think about, the easier it is to recognize it in your interpretation of the world.
So if you practice focusing on things that please you, the easier it becomes for you to feel “good” and experience more things that make you feel “good”.
If you practice focusing on things that upset you, the more often you will feel “bad” and experience things that make you feel “bad”.
And this is where a lot of issues arise for many people.
Because it’s fairly easy to welcome “positive” feelings into our experience.
But unless you’ve been taught to do otherwise, you probably try to avoid “negative” emotions like the plague.
Even more so if you’ve already delved into the world of self-help and have put in conscious effort to become a more positive person.
However, those “negative” feelings are extremely valuable.
In fact, they hold the key to the transformation and happiness you crave in your life.
Because “bad” feelings shine the light on the beliefs and thought habits that you have that are holding you back from living the life you truly want to live.
If you suppress those feelings instead of investigating what they’re pointing out to you, you’ll keep falling victim to the same patterns.
The thing that most people don’t realize is that it’s the suppression of “negative” emotions that causes pain, not the emotion itself.
In reality, there is no such thing as a “good” or “bad” feeling.
Those values are just your interpretation.
Before your interpretation, feelings are just sensations that move through your body.
And those sensations are simply there to tell you to “keep focusing here” or “change your focus”.
The emotions that arise in you are really just energy in motion (“E” + “motion”).
They are meant to move.
And when they’re not allowed to move, it’s like the pressure of a powerful river building up behind a dam.
Eventually the dam has to allow the river to move or it will break and the river will burst forth uncontrollably.
It is this pressure and bursting that most people are trying to avoid when they suppress emotions.
But it’s the suppression itself that causes harm.
Resisting the emotions that arise in you can result in anything from stomachache, headache, shoulder tension, TMJ, insomnia, anger/frustration, fatigue, digestive issues, low libido, a feeling of stuckness, foggy-brain, to anxiety and depression.
However, if the dam of emotional resistance is never built, and the river of emotion is allowed to flow unimpeded, no problems arise.
And this understanding is essential if you want to take control of your emotions and create your life the way you want it.
Physiologically, a feeling is just a chemical reaction that activates practiced nerve pathways in your body.
Your interpretation of those sensations dictate the behavioral reaction you have in response.
If you can separate the sensation of the feeling from the interpretation, you’re then empowered to choose your reaction.
And when you choose your reaction, you choose your focus.
And when you choose your focus, you choose your life experience.
But this doesn’t mean being blindly optimistic and denying what you perceive to be “negative” emotion.
Again, your emotions are simply guides.
It’s in the ability to observe the sensation of the feeling -and then allowing it to express itself through your body, without judging yourself or telling stories about it- that emotions are transformed.
Emotional release is always a physical experience.
It does not happen in the Mind, although the mind likes to try to “fix” the situation by trying to get to the bottom of what’s happening, why it’s happening, and what might happen in the future.
The Mind, which can also be called the “Ego,” is terrified of the unknown.
It’s much more comfortable if it feels like it has full control over the situation.
But the Mind’s attempt to control the situation through interpretation is really just a desperate cover-up for the fact that it cannot control emotions because emotions are feelings in the body.
The interpretations that the Mind comes up with are the Mind’s futile effort to stop something that is out of its jurisdiction.
So when you have an emotional release, it’s important that you let your body do the work.
Your body knows exactly what it needs to do in order to transform emotions, old and new.
You might find yourself sobbing, screaming, moaning, shaking, laughing, coughing, sweating, feeling nauseous/vomiting, or experiencing other types of physical evacuation.
Allow it to happen.
Resist the urge to interpret or suppress.
Remember, none of these experiences are actually “good” or “bad”.
Those values are just your Mind’s interpretation.
If you can become a passive observer to your body’s process, the emotions will move through you exactly as they are meant to.
And that’s how you transform negative emotions into gold.
Now I’d love to hear from you.
What are your go-to reactions when you feel bad? How would you like to change moving forward?
Leave a comment, I’d love to know!